*cues music*
All the single ladies, all the single ladies.. Put your hands up! 🙋🏾♀️
We all know there’s something about having a boo or bae(whatever you want to call them) during the holiday seasons. It’s the having someone to bring home and show off, or even just having someone there so your mom and grandma can stop asking you when you’re going to settle down and get into a relationship.
I’ve had several single cuffing seasons and let me tell you, I enjoy it sometimes but other times it’s annoying being the person without a Holidate (super cute movie on Netflix!).
It took me some time, but I’ve learned to not dwell on having someone to take home and enjoy my single cuffing season by just changing my perspective on it all. Here’s a couple of different ways I’ve gotten through the cuffing season:
1. Don’t compare!!! I had to learn this the hard way. I would compare my holidays to what I saw on social media. From the matching pjs to the bomb Christmas gifts from their spouse, I felt like some people had it made. Then I had to realize that what I see may not always be what it truly is.
2. Be grateful!!! After I stopped comparing, I learned how to be grateful for what I did have in my life. My family, and my closest friends are such an amazing bunch and I wouldn’t be able to do life without them.
3. Start your own traditions!!! Who says the holidays had to be done one particular way. Take this season to start new traditions by yourself or even with your friends and family. For the last few winters, I’ve been in cabins with my friends and it has been amazing! Great views, great vibes, even greater fun.
4. Remember you’re saving MONEY!!! Most people in relationships are having to put their brains and pockets to work to buy gifts for their significant other, but guess what?!?!? Not you! You can save that money or even buy yourself that one special thing you’ve wanted all year long.
All in all enjoy your singleness because there will come a time when you will be spending time and money on a significant other and even children. Go listen to Rudolph the Red nose reindeer by DMX, and trust the process.
Securely,
Bshennell